This is the phenomenon of marrying oneself that convinces more and more women: "I went on a bridal trip to the Sónar Festival, it was a very cool honeymoon"

The 21st century had to arrive to give a romp to the millenary costumbrismo of

.

With the new winds, always so modern,

: we put the link to other sexualities, to different family models, to

.

Singleness, formerly a stigma, gained momentum and today it is

, a capitalist vein, at times a hedonistic luxury.

But why settle for celibacy when we can marry ourselves?

Why not have

in one product?

From this

sologamy was born.

The latest in human relations,

, the ultimate marital status: a wedding with oneself.

With all the fanfare of "yes, I do" and guests, but

, that is, without another spouse to whom to promise eternal love until the end of time.

May Serrano pioneered this wave of solo marriages

, all perpetrated by women.

"I wanted to generate debate about romantic love, about that widespread idea that if you don't have a partner you're not complete, you're missing something," she explains.

She was part of an association, Imperfect Women, and she came up with the idea of ​​marrying herself "

".

She was traveling through Spain in 2011 and the wedding took place in a desecrated church.

She was not alone, because

.

«When we arrived we realized that he was not so thug;

that ceremony had a meaning.

We were going to say in front of 100 people 'I love myself, I respect myself and I am going to be faithful'».

Unbeknownst to her, May had just planted the seed of sologamy, although she doesn't like to call it that.

"I find it a confusing term, because it leads one to think that you don't want a partner, or that you don't have one because you have no other choice," she says.

“Marrying oneself is not incompatible with being in love with someone else.

In fact, when I married myself I

».

Such was the commotion that the filmmaker Icíar Bollaín was inspired by her story to shoot the film

, starring Candela Peña.

.

The writer and journalist Diana Aller passed through the altar in 2015

.

"It was the culmination of a process of personal acceptance in which you learn to love yourself, accept yourself and respect yourself, which are the precepts of married life," she explains.

“I started looking at myself in the mirror and I liked the person I saw.

It is not an

egotistical or narcissistic

It's a

because you have no other, because it's you, so the best thing is to make peace with yourself and

... So I decided to take the step, I am still happily married to this day."

With all the pomp of great celebrations, Diana said "yes, I do" on the roof of the Hotel Urban, on Carrera de San Jerónimo, with the consent of the lions of the Congress of Deputies on the other side of the street.

It should be noted that

.

«I invited all my friends, who were gorgeous, and one of the things I liked the most is that none of them asked any questions;

it seemed normal to everyone », she says.

“When do all your loved ones get together to celebrate that they love you?

."

To celebrate their engagement,

, the famous electronic music festival in Barcelona, ​​"which was a very cool honeymoon."

And every year for her anniversary,

.

As a result of that pioneering wedding, May says: «I realized that we promise to take care of ourselves, but

, so I decided to create the course Yes

(

).

In this

self - love

.

But she warns: “No one is going to go the same way, no method saves anyone.

Coffee is not for everyone.

Since then, May

and always with posh masters of ceremonies: actresses, councilors...

- And why are there never men in this whole story?

-They already love each other too much, they don't need it.

Since that magical day in 2015,

.

“But I don't really give myself over to it anymore,” she says, “and I have to check it out with myself.

Is it a healthy relationship?

Suits me?

What can you give me?

Before I let myself go, I wasn't so thoughtful... Not anymore.

».

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